Here are a few Coming Out Tips & Advice for National Coming Out Day (Oct 11). These Coming out tips are based on my own coming out experience. Please use advise wisely. These tips can be used for teenagers or adults looking to come out, as well as for parents and caregivers to read as a resource.
11 Coming Out Tips & Advice for Coming Out Day
Coming Out Tip & Advice #1:
“Come out when you’re ready, not when other people want you to be.”
So many people knew I was gay before I even came to terms. Friends were trying to force me to come out because “everyone already knows” or “no one’s going to be shocked”. The truth is that I wasn’t mentally or emotionally ready to come out when others wanted me to. It’s your choice, so don’t force yourself to come out because others want you to come out.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #2:
“Don’t let anyone tell you being gay is wrong.”
It’s okay to be gay. People will say you’re different and that it is wrong to be different. I’m here to tell you that it’s not wrong to be different. It’s okay to be different.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #3:
“Only come out if you think you’re safe.”
Many people who are out and proud grew up in a safe space. They are proud to be advocates for coming out, but this also influences people to come out in places that aren’t safe spaces. Not all people grow up in safe spaces, which is why my coming out advice is to come out if you think you’re safe.
I didn’t feel safe to come out until I was 21 and financially capable of coming out in case my family rejected me and forced me out of the house. Being forced out of homes for being gay is very common, and so is LGBT Youth Homelessness. I decided to come out when I felt safe, but you don’t have to take my advice, I just wanted to share why I think this coming out tip is important and overshadowed by the benefits of coming out and not really the consequences of coming out, unfortunately.
Just in Canada alone, approx 25-40% of homeless youth identify as LGBTQI2S. If you or someone you know if a youth in need of support, please reach out to www.Egale.ca/OUTreach
Coming Out Tip & Advice #4:
“Come out to someone close to you, first. Their support will give you the strength to tell others.
The best coming out advice I got was “choose the best and most supportive person you know to come out to”. From a best friend to supportive siblings, find someone close to come out to.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #5:
“Practice coming out to yourself in the mirror”
As silly as this coming out advice might seem, practising in the mirror helped me say what I needed to say to others and allowed me to say it face to face with myself.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #6:
“There are people that will support you. Don’t worry about the ones that don’t.
Whether family, loved ones, friends or support groups, there will also be someone who will support you. The internet is also full of people who will support you. I found the most supportive people over the internet via YouTube, Instagram, Tumblr, etc. Don’t focus on those who don’t accept you. They are not worth your time or life.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #7:
“You’re brave and wonderful the way you are. Don’t keep putting yourself down.”
You may be in a dark place in life, but keep reminding yourself that you are strong and wonderful just the way you are. Don’t let others put you down, and don’t put yourself down. Keep fighting. Things will get better.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #8:
“Don’t feel pressured to come out.”
It’s okay if you don’t feel ready. If it’s not your time, it’s not your time. Just know you are not alone. Coming out isn’t mandatory on National Coming Out Day, but it helps to find ways to affirm your self-worth.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #9:
“Do not OUT someone or pressure anyone to come out either “
Coming Out Tip & Advice #10:
“Someone might come out to you. Be supportive and please try not to make a scene.”
Coming out takes a lot of courage, so please be nice and supportive, even if you didn’t expect it or understand it fully. Just be nice and treat them the same way you did before knowing.
Coming Out Tip & Advice #11:
“Don’t come out as a joke because it’s trending.”
Last, but not least, don’t joke about “coming out” or joke about someone’s coming out. This day is serious for the LGBT+ community. Don’t make a joke out of it or abuse it since it’s a trend if you don’t actually identify with the community.
Thanks for reading my coming out tips and advice.
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